Lose Weight Mentality

Do you see yourself as fat? I need help to lose weight.?

i know a lot of women think they are fat all tho in reality they look fine. I however have an opposite problem. I am fat. i know it cause of my weight but in my mind and when i look at myself i dont see myself as fat. its only at a store trying on clothes, when i actually see myself in a full length mirror that i realize just how fat i am and how awful i look. then i get really depressed and start to cry cause nothing looks/fits good on me. I want to lose the weight and be the skinny me i see in my mind but i constantly self sabotage. ill lose like 30 pounds then eat fastfood for a week. Sabotaged by with the i want to be skinny, but i dont want to eat lettuce for the rest of my life mentality and you only live once thinking. the other day i went and bought myself shorts and my husband actually told me to bring them back, that i looked awful cause of cellulite! i couldve killed him. i need help, advice and tips!
doc has prescribed me phentermine but i forget to drink it.

i am one of those who thinks i’m fat, but i know i’m not, because according to a “chart” i haven’t reached the point of being over weight … however, for my bone structure, and height and past experience, i’m over weight according to MY standards.

anyone will tell you that EXERCISE (exercise comes before diet now, just ask a doctor … they’ve realized this is more important than diet, though diet is super important) and diet are vital. no one is saying you have to KILL yourself, or be unrealistic, but it does take effort, and the more effort you put into it, the more you gain. thus the saying, no pain no gain! it’s true, regarding everything. you have to sacrifice to get what you want, no matter what it is.

but we’re talking about your health here, so w/o good health, nothing else matters. so you gotta sacrifice honey. there’s no ifs, ands, or buts about it.

don’t go on a DIET, cause DIETS don’t work. you’ll just get discouraged and give up, which it seems you do a lot … i think most people w/ weight problems do the same. the key is to, again, exercise, eat healthy most of the time and drink plenty of water! it’s important to be balanced. exercise at least four times a week, preferably five days. start off slow, so that again, you don’t get discouraged and give up. start off by walking 10/15 min a day, then step it up to 20/30 min after a week or two. then 40/50 minutes in weeks 4-6 … you get the idea. walk with light weights. that helps. walk fast enough that you FEEL you’re working out. and eat healthy for two weeks … no junk! then after two weeks, you can have a cheat day. JUST ONE. so six days you eat high protein, low carb, no alcohol, no nothing (my favorite book for this kind of diet, which has recipes that are delish is The Ultimate New York Body Plan by David Kirsch), then one day, you can cheat w/ one meal, so you are not totally depriving yourself.

and remember, YOU CAN DO THIS! you have to believe in yourself, or you won’t succeed.

OH, AND YOU HAVE TO EAT FIVE SMALL MEALS A DAY! Eating breakfast, and four other small meals a day will keep your metabolism going, which will help you lose weight.

Seriously, you should go get that book from David Kirsch that I mentioned. It’s fabulous, and his plan works! I got my book off of Amazon.com for real cheap. It was like $8 w/ shipping.

Oh, and another thing, I know it hurts when your husband tells you you shouldn’t wear something cause you look fat in it, but the way I see it is, he shouldn’t NOT say anything or lie and say you look good when you DON’T. The truth hurts, and if he hadn’t said anything, you may be sitting there doing the same thing, not losing weight. Listen, I am glad that I married someone who admires my beauty and appreciates how I look, AND THAT HE WOULD BE HONEST & TELL ME IF I’M GETTING FAT, CAUSE I WANT TO LOOK GOOD FOR MY MAN! I DON’T WANT HIM GOING SOMEWHERE ELSE JUST CAUSE I CAN’T TAKE CARE OF MYSELF. That kills me … these women who think, “He loves me. He wouldn’t cheat on me just cause I’ve gained a ‘little’ weight.” That’s BS. He will cheat on you, if you (women in general) don’t care enough about yourself. You can’t use the, well he married me and he loves me bit as an excuse. You have to love yourself & care enough about yourself to take care of YOURSELF, before he can do the same. And the fact is that men want beauty! If you let yourself go, and don’t care (which I think you do, other wise you wouldn’t have posted this question), neither will he. That’s just how men work. So be grateful he’s honest. Not that he should belittle you or make fun of you or mistreat you, but he shouldn’t let you go around thinking you shouldn’t lose weight, if you need to. He loves you if he’s brave enough to tell you something that may hurt. Remember that!

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